True, I suppose this is why Jack needs Ianto, a 21st c man who appears to be capable of understanding, if not directly relating to, 51st c sexual attitudes. The most progressive partner could be forgiven for thinking that Jack is selfish in bed. I'm aware that I'm completely biased because Ianto is, of course, wonderful but in my opinion, he can be even more calculating than Jack. He's so freakishly intuitive, it borders on psychic. I have a seminar tutor like Ianto, who somehow understands the specific needs of each individual in the class, albeit in a strictly educational sense.